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Barristers inherently face very specific challenges on a daily basis. If you need some help click on support to find contact details and advice on seeking support.
The professional lives of clerks and chambers’ staff include many potential stressors. If you don’t know how to broach an issue, want advice on your options.
These resources have been designed specifically for those who have completed their BPTC and for pupils up to tenancy.
Resources
Guidance on how to introduce wellbeing policies and initiatives and on tackling a wellbeing issue in chambers.
Examples of successful wellbeing initiatives adopted by chambers, Specialist Bar Associations and the Inns of Court.
Support
Who to talk to, how to get help in coping with the pressures and demands of life at the Bar.
Who to talk to and how to get help, resources are for clerks and staff themselves.
Support for students and pupils
Who to talk to and how to get help for those who have completed their BPTC and for pupils up to tenancy.
The confidential 24/7 helpline with access to counselling for barristers, pupils, clerks and chambers’ staff.
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What is self-harm?
Self-harm can be psychological e.g. alcohol abuse, drug abuse and eating problems, or it can take the form of physical injury such as cutting, burning or pinching. The urge to self-harm can be very strong and become addictive.
As a student or pupil it can be difficult to balance competing demands from members of chambers, clerks, other colleagues, solicitors and family. Self-harm can become a coping mechanism for those who struggle with managing stress at work. There are other alternatives discussed below.
Who self-harms?
There isn’t a ‘them and us’ about self-harm; we all self-harm to some extent, at different points in our life. There is a difference between self-harm (things we do that generally have a deferred impact, e.g., excessive exercise, over-work etc.), and self-injury (cutting, burning etc.). We self-harm when we are struggling with strong or difficult feelings, but cannot find a way of easily expressing them. For example, after a very stressful day in court, which has left us feeling angry or frustrated, we might drink a bottle of wine to cope with our feelings, rather than simply enjoying a drink: that is self harm. The intent that lies behind our behaviour is a key factor here.
However, self-injury is something that fewer people do. It is important to remember though, that they are both on the same continuum – just different behaviours. The more we understand the ways in which we might harm ourselves, the more we can empathise with others, and the easier it might be to talk to them about how they are feeling.
So, I know I may have a problem. Now what?
It is quite difficult to overcome your feelings and manifestation of self-harm on your own. As well as speaking to someone you trust about this issue, it is important that you also seek professional support and help as soon as possible.
Some avenues to consider are:
- Your GP
- Self-Help Courses – your GP may refer you to self-help courses. Public peer to peer support forums available to discuss your issues and meet others who have experienced the same challenges.
- Online support – You may like to approach some of the Peer support groups online. This can be a good way to maintain your anonymity, while still getting the help you need.
- Books – there are a number of books on this issue. It may be useful to read up on self-harm, and also explore other ways of coping.
How do I talk to someone about my self-harming?
1. Find your confidant – choose the person you feel most comfortable opening up to. It does not have to be someone within Chambers or your place of work. Some people might prefer to talk to someone that does not know them or their situation.
2. Good timing – try to find a time that suits you both, and when you can discuss it privately. Also take into account any looming deadlines, or potential conflicts in your schedules.
3. Prepare for others’ reactions – This is a difficult conversation to have. People may be pleased that you feel comfortable enough to open up, but they also may be shocked, upset or dismissive. Try and give people the time to process it, as they may be worried about the impact of their words and actions on you going forward.
How do I start a conversation with a colleague I suspect is self-harming?
- Think – before you approach someone. Do not assume, but think of kind things you will say so that you are not caught off-guard if your colleague is defensive. Remember that your colleague may be dealing with a number of stressful factors, and the last thing you want to do is add to their burden with any judgment. Consider, is it your place to speak to them or is there someone more appropriate who knows them better or can relate in a more effective way?
- Good timing – try to find a time that suits you both, and when you can discuss it privately. Also take into account their schedule, and any looming deadlines.
- Be patient – they may not feel comfortable opening up from the outset. Do bear in mind that this might be the first time they have to confront their issue, so be patient
Where can I find out more?
- https://www.selfharm.co.uk/
- http://www.lifesigns.org.uk/
- http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/self-harm/how-can-i-help-myself/
- http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Self-injury/Pages/Introduction.aspx
- http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/healthadvice/problemsdisorders/self-harm.aspx
- https://www.rethink.org/diagnosis-treatment/symptoms/self-harm
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The information and resource packs above are designed to help you during a very specific period in your training to become a barrister. If you want to provide feedback on these resources, or to get involved in promoting wellbeing amongst those in a similar position to yourself please get in touch.
Training to become a barrister is pressured and demanding. Intensive competition for limited pupillages (and when in pupillage for tenancy or employment) can make collegiate relationships difficult. This website aims to provide you with the knowledge to manage those stressors, make emotionally informed, wise decisions and hopefully thrive in your chosen profession.
A simple expression that sums up wellbeing is ‘travelling well’
2 in 3 barristers feel that showing signs of stress equals weakness